My favorite definition of ‘Soul Mate’

I think I write a lot about love. Probably because there is so much of it around and so many people around in love, that one ends up learning a thing or two purely out of vicarious experience.

I remember telling a friend about my list of favorite love stories which has 2 stories as of now. One is a fiction story, another is a real one! I will not talk about the real one because I don’t want to be hunted down by the two beautiful people involved in it for wrapping it up in one post. It is their story and deserves a whole book probably. And words would do no justice to what they have together. But I would love to share the fiction one.

Those who know me really well would know which one I am talking about. It is ‘Snape’s story from Harry Potter’. The love story that has changed the meaning of the word ‘Always’ for all its readers and will ‘always’ continue to inspire me. For the potterheads, the lines – ‘After all these years?’ ‘Always’ make up for the most awesomest love story of their lives. His story reminds me of a superb one liner from the movie “Namaste London”:

“Ishq di mere mitra pehchan ki;
Mit jaaye jadon zid apnaan di”

(There could be many many pages for the explanation of the above couplet. But for now let’s just say, it means – the hallmark of, for the lack of a better word, ISHQ, is the absence of the urge to own the person you love.)

The love story taught me this one beautiful lesson – ‘If it takes leaving the person you love for the sake of love, do that. But, never stop living your life if you don’t get the years of togetherness you have always wanted for yourself. Surely, the one who loved you and couldn’t be with you for some reason would not have wanted you to stop living. The whole idea of love is to inspire you to be better. Whether you get to be with the person or not.’

And this brings me to an excerpt from another of my favorite books, Elizabeth Gilbert’s ‘Eat Pray Love’ –

 “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. 


A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. 


A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…” 

A soul mate could have never been summed up in a better way, a love story never explained in a better way(Snape’s love for Lily)… True, love is all about understanding yourself before you commit to a lifelong of companionship with someone else. And that is why, maybe, love should come easily to all of us..but doesn’t 🙂 … Because, probably we misunderstand ourselves the most, lie to ourselves the most!